This post was created specifically for C.K.H, tho all are invited. Enjoy the journey!
40 Day Challenge
For the next 40 consecutive days, a challenge awaits you, whereby you will be directed in action, thought, written response, etc. I hope you take the journey and know, because you are loved and cared for, you’re worth it. Don’t quit.
Today carve out time to plan and prepare a meal, a feast for your parents and you to share. Invite them, set the table, maybe push in your moms chair for her. Serve them first, lead the dinner conversation inquiring about their day – their thoughts- their feelings. No phones, no tv, no outside distractions, look at them directly in their eyes. After the meal, express appreciation for who they are in your life, the value they hold to you. Insist that they spend time together, maybe interdigitly hold hands 😉 meanwhile you clean up, do the dishes, put things away, properly as your mother would.
“Wisdom says it is better to make sure that everyone is served before you.
Wisdom suggests that we be extremely aware and intentional in all of our affairs. ” MDPaschall
Today, reflect inwardly…
What do you default to when your alone?
Does it reflect the man you want to be growing into? Does it honor?
Tho, It seems, honor and morality coincides, just as authority and responsibility tracks with one another.
“God sees not as man sees, for man looks at the outward appearance, but the Lord looks at the heart” (1 Samuel 16:7, NASB).
When the heat & pressures of life engulf you, how will you withstand the flames? What makes you fireproof?
“Jesus was actually a part of the love package God has for His creation. It’s hard for many of us to consider the love of God, but His plans really do include hope for a blessed today and tomorrow! ”
Today make a date with your sister… Pick her up, bring her a favorite treat/ flowers. Make her laugh, encourage her, edify her, ask her questions, really listen to her, actually study her while your hanging out. Make a memory, do something active. Tell her the hopes you have for her future. Take as much time as she wants, pay for the date and share in whatever way, how she is special to you.
The mouth of the righteous is a fountain of life, but the mouth of the wicked conceals violence.” Proverbs 10:11, NIV
Forgiveness and freedom coincide. Today, write on the topic of forgiveness… Do You personally have anyone you must forgive, anyone you need to ask for forgiveness.
“forgive and remember there are a lot of factors involved in why people make the choices they do in life.” MDPaschall
Chose one person in your life who is difficult for you to relate to, one you may have little to no respect for, who is distrusting, selfish, mean, etc. Approach this person and initiate a conversation, truly engaging. Find what you can honor about them, I believe there is at least one thing, and honor that.
“The just man walketh in his integrity: his children are blessed after him.” Proverbs 20:7, KJV
Today, tell someone that you love, “I love you” … Literally. Is that a simple act for you?
Self seek…is love the driving force in your life/relationships?
If not, do you want it?
What does it mean for you to have unconditional love?
If it is not, can you take a personal inventory to identify what is?
“Don’t lose your grip on Love and Loyalty. Tie them around your neck; carve their initials on your heart. Earn a reputation for living well in God’s eyes and the eyes of the people.” Proverbs 3:3-4, MSG
Today, is a great day to share the wealth… Last week, how much money did you earn? Take that figure, divide by 2. then take the quotient and donate it; a friend in need, a food bank, woman’s shelter, 3rd world country, you pick, just give it away with a joyful heart!
“The proverbs of Solomon: a wise child brings joy to a father; a foolish child brings grief to a mother. Tainted wealth has no lasting value, but right living can save your life. The Lord will not let the godly go hungry, but he refuses to satisfy the craving of the wicked. Lazy people are soon poor; hard workers get rich.” Proverbs 10:1-4, NLT
Today, write a letter to your wife. Write about the boy you were, the person you are today and the man you are growing into. Tell her the good, the bad, the changing. The low lights, the high lights, the greatest stories along with the notorious ones. Write out what do you think you’re looking for in a woman?Write about the ways you hope she will support you, love you, challenge you. Write out anything that encompasses this one and only relationship.
Below is a passage, shared from a man who lost his wife only midway through life.
“Don’t miss anything… especially the small stuff. Notice the little things that she does. Laugh when it’s silly, pay attention when she’s sad, but don’t ignore her. See her. Really see her.”
Don’t sweat the small stuff. What I mean by that is, don’t get crossways with her regarding things that aren’t really that important. You’ve got enough big things to struggle against together. Let that small stuff remain small.” – Widower
“Touch her. Pull her to you. Grab her hand. Touch her hair. Rub her shoulders. Don’t paw her because you want something from her. Enjoy the fact that she is right there within your reach. Smell her hair. Notice her lines. Touch her because you can. That is what I miss. That is the stuff that keeps me awake at night. I miss touching and talking to my friend.”
It is serious stuff.
Buying someone crap doesn’t forge love. Being a sugar daddy don’t make you daddy.
There is no excuse for not paying attention to the PEOPLE who are most important in our lives. We have too many excuses for our isolation. It’s just not necessary.” MDPaschall
“as Christ also loved the church and gave Himself up for her” (Ephesians 5:25).
Today, a day of solitude …. Rise early, keep quiet, get outside and get out of your head. Go for a nature hike, listen to the birds, feel the cool wind breeze against your cheeks. Take in the beauty, how the sky changes throughout the day, etc.
when you return from the out doors, continue a restful day. No working, no thinking… Be still and listen.
“One of the best things about the voice of the Holy Spirit is his timing and tenderness. One of the most disconcerting things about the Holy Spirit is his ability to speak into what needs to be addressed without the approval from all our protective reasoning mechanisms.” MDPaschall
Today, write out everything you want, exhaust the list… Big life changes, character changes, resources, trips, guacamole, a sunny day, etc. you want it, write it down!
“Ask, and it will be given to you; seek, and you will find; knock, and it will be opened to you. For everyone who asks receives, and he who seeks finds, and to him who knocks it will be opened. Or what man is there among you who, when his son asks for a loaf, will give him a stone? Or if he asks for a fish, he will not give him a snake, will he? If you then, being evil, know how to give good gifts to your children, how much more will your Father who is in heaven give what is good to those who ask Him!”
Today, a day with the bro’s. Man time is necessary, have an evening out or in with your father and your brothers… Watch a sporting game, play cards, build a fire, take a kick boxing class together… Enjoy the time making a memory with them, male bonding is a holds great value in a son, brother, fathers life.
Have a heart of honor.
“A servant who acts wisely will rule over a son who acts shamefully, and will share in the inheritance among brothers.” Proverbs 17:2, NASB
Today, a short reading selection awaits you. To preface the verses…
God can not deny himself, He is faithful to us, even when we are faithless. He is love to us, even when we do not hold love. He chases after us like a love sick puppy. this is a love story, not a rule book. An invitation, not a mandate. He is the greatest gentleman I will ever know, He extends endless grace, forgiveness in abundance. He wants to laugh with you, slay the dragon with you, and everything inbetween.
Here is a reading selection-
Romans 3:23 NKJV – for all have sinned and fall short of the glory of God.
Romans 3:10 NKJV – As it is written: “There is none righteous, no, not one;
Romans 5:12 NKJV – Therefore, just as through one man sin entered the world, and death through sin, and thus death spread to all men, because all sinned–
Romans 6:23 NKJV – For the wages of sin [is] death, but the gift of God [is] eternal life in Christ Jesus our Lord.
Romans 5:8 NKJV – But God demonstrates His own love toward us, in that while we were still sinners, Christ died for us.
Romans 10:9-10 NKJV – that if you confess with your mouth the Lord Jesus and believe in your heart that God has raised Him from the dead, you will be saved. For with the heart one believes unto righteousness, and with the mouth confession is made unto salvation
Romans 10:13 NKJV – For “whoever calls on the name of the LORD shall be saved.”
Romans 10:17 NKJV – So then faith [comes] by hearing, and hearing by the word of God.
Today, is all about the spirit of laughing!
Be light hearted, walk on sunshine, vibrate with joy! Literally submerge yourself in a deep big belly laugh 😉 don’t take yourself too seriously, but whatever you chose today, let it be from a light, upbeat, positive posture.
“Against the assault of laughter, nothing can stand.” — Mark Twain
Today, chose an area of your life and work at it. Work is an important component to life, the outcome we gain often reflect making every effort, working with integrity and dedication.
“Commit your work to the Lord, and your plans will be established.” Proverbs 16:3, RSV
Today, take an 8mile walk by yourself, topic to think through- the 16″ journey from your head to your heart.
What does this mean in how to self govern? What’s connected? Where’s the disconnect ?
“But the fruit of the Spirit is love, joy, peace, patience, kindness, goodness, faithfulness, gentleness, generosity, self-control” (Galatians 5:22-23, NASB).
Today, for your mother, wake up early and tend to her flower beds. Weed, water, turn the dirt over, edge, etc. Once completed, take a load off your feet, have an ice cold beverage and consider this following passage-
“He who keeps the law is a discerning son, but he who is a companion of gluttons humiliates his father.” Proverbs 28:7, NASB
“1. Understand that today has a direct impact on tomorrow
2. Invest today for future fruit
3. Know that curses and blessings alike are passed down the family bloodline
(just like human DNA).
How much of your life involves stewarding something to be passed down to generations after you? How regularly do you assess the quality of your stewardship? What is the inheritance you want to really pass on?
What kind of future gifts do you want to see generationally passed down to your children and grandchildren?
Understanding that today has a direct impact on tomorrow
Invest today for future fruit”
He who tends a fig tree will eat its fruit” – Proverbs
Today, chose wisely a day filled with whatever will rest and rejuvenate your body, mind, emotions, spirit, attitude and disposition. The importance is to be filled.
What fulfills you to your core?
1 Corinthians 1:5
In HIM you have been enriched in every way
Today, a reading passage-
Matthew 5-7New International Version (NIV)
Introduction to the Sermon on the Mount
5 Now when Jesus saw the crowds, he went up on a mountainside and sat down. His disciples came to him, 2 and he began to teach them.
3 “Blessed are the poor in spirit,
for theirs is the kingdom of heaven.
4 Blessed are those who mourn,
for they will be comforted.
5 Blessed are the meek,
for they will inherit the earth.
6 Blessed are those who hunger and thirst for righteousness,
for they will be filled.
7 Blessed are the merciful,
for they will be shown mercy.
8 Blessed are the pure in heart,
for they will see God.
9 Blessed are the peacemakers,
for they will be called children of God.
10 Blessed are those who are persecuted because of righteousness,
for theirs is the kingdom of heaven.
11 “Blessed are you when people insult you, persecute you and falsely say all kinds of evil against you because of me. 12 Rejoice and be glad, because great is your reward in heaven, for in the same way they persecuted the prophets who were before you.
Salt and Light
13 “You are the salt of the earth. But if the salt loses its saltiness, how can it be made salty again? It is no longer good for anything, except to be thrown out and trampled underfoot.
14 “You are the light of the world. A town built on a hill cannot be hidden. 15 Neither do people light a lamp and put it under a bowl. Instead they put it on its stand, and it gives light to everyone in the house. 16 In the same way, let your light shine before others, that they may see your good deeds and glorify your Father in heaven.
The Fulfillment of the Law
17 “Do not think that I have come to abolish the Law or the Prophets; I have not come to abolish them but to fulfill them. 18 For truly I tell you, until heaven and earth disappear, not the smallest letter, not the least stroke of a pen, will by any means disappear from the Law until everything is accomplished.19 Therefore anyone who sets aside one of the least of these commandsand teaches others accordingly will be called least in the kingdom of heaven, but whoever practices and teaches these commands will be called great in the kingdom of heaven. 20 For I tell you that unless your righteousness surpasses that of the Pharisees and the teachers of the law, you will certainly not enter the kingdom of heaven.
21 “You have heard that it was said to the people long ago, ‘You shall not murder,[a] and anyone who murders will be subject to judgment.’ 22 But I tell you that anyone who is angry with a brother or sister[b][c] will be subject to judgment. Again, anyone who says to a brother or sister, ‘Raca,’[d] is answerable to the court. And anyone who says, ‘You fool!’ will be in danger of the fire of hell.
23 “Therefore, if you are offering your gift at the altar and there remember that your brother or sister has something against you, 24 leave your gift there in front of the altar. First go and be reconciled to them; then come and offer your gift.
25 “Settle matters quickly with your adversary who is taking you to court. Do it while you are still together on the way, or your adversary may hand you over to the judge, and the judge may hand you over to the officer, and you may be thrown into prison. 26 Truly I tell you, you will not get out until you have paid the last penny.
27 “You have heard that it was said, ‘You shall not commit adultery.’[e]28 But I tell you that anyone who looks at a woman lustfully has already committed adultery with her in his heart. 29 If your right eye causes you to stumble, gouge it out and throw it away. It is better for you to lose one part of your body than for your whole body to be thrown into hell. 30 And if your right hand causes you to stumble, cut it off and throw it away. It is better for you to lose one part of your body than for your whole body to go into hell.
31 “It has been said, ‘Anyone who divorces his wife must give her a certificate of divorce.’[f] 32 But I tell you that anyone who divorces his wife, except for sexual immorality, makes her the victim of adultery, and anyone who marries a divorced woman commits adultery.
33 “Again, you have heard that it was said to the people long ago, ‘Do not break your oath, but fulfill to the Lord the vows you have made.’34 But I tell you, do not swear an oath at all: either by heaven, for it is God’s throne; 35 or by the earth, for it is his footstool; or by Jerusalem, for it is the city of the Great King.36 And do not swear by your head, for you cannot make even one hair white or black. 37 All you need to say is simply ‘Yes’ or ‘No’; anything beyond this comes from the evil one.[g]
Eye for Eye
38 “You have heard that it was said, ‘Eye for eye, and tooth for tooth.’[h]39 But I tell you, do not resist an evil person. If anyone slaps you on the right cheek, turn to them the other cheek also. 40 And if anyone wants to sue you and take your shirt, hand over your coat as well. 41 If anyone forces you to go one mile, go with them two miles. 42 Give to the one who asks you, and do not turn away from the one who wants to borrow from you.
Love for Enemies
43 “You have heard that it was said, ‘Love your neighbor[i] and hate your enemy.’ 44 But I tell you, love your enemies and pray for those who persecute you, 45 that you may be children of your Father in heaven. He causes his sun to rise on the evil and the good, and sends rain on the righteous and the unrighteous. 46 If you love those who love you, what reward will you get? Are not even the tax collectors doing that? 47 And if you greet only your own people, what are you doing more than others? Do not even pagans do that? 48 Be perfect, therefore, as your heavenly Father is perfect.
Giving to the Needy
6 “Be careful not to practice your righteousness in front of others to be seen by them. If you do, you will have no reward from your Father in heaven.
2 “So when you give to the needy, do not announce it with trumpets, as the hypocrites do in the synagogues and on the streets, to be honored by others. Truly I tell you, they have received their reward in full. 3 But when you give to the needy, do not let your left hand know what your right hand is doing,4 so that your giving may be in secret. Then your Father, who sees what is done in secret, will reward you.
5 “And when you pray, do not be like the hypocrites, for they love to pray standing in the synagogues and on the street corners to be seen by others. Truly I tell you, they have received their reward in full. 6 But when you pray, go into your room, close the door and pray to your Father, who is unseen. Then your Father, who sees what is done in secret, will reward you. 7 And when you pray, do not keep on babblinglike pagans, for they think they will be heard because of their many words. 8 Do not be like them, for your Father knows what you needbefore you ask him.
9 “This, then, is how you should pray:
“‘Our Father in heaven,
hallowed be your name,
10 your kingdom come,
your will be done,
on earth as it is in heaven.
11 Give us today our daily bread.
12 And forgive us our debts,
as we also have forgiven our debtors.
13 And lead us not into temptation,[j]
but deliver us from the evil one.[k]’
14 For if you forgive other people when they sin against you, your heavenly Father will also forgive you. 15 But if you do not forgive others their sins, your Father will not forgive your sins.
16 “When you fast, do not look somber as the hypocrites do, for they disfigure their faces to show others they are fasting. Truly I tell you, they have received their reward in full. 17 But when you fast, put oil on your head and wash your face,18 so that it will not be obvious to others that you are fasting, but only to your Father, who is unseen; and your Father, who sees what is done in secret, will reward you.
Treasures in Heaven
19 “Do not store up for yourselves treasures on earth, where moths and vermin destroy, and where thieves break in and steal. 20 But store up for yourselves treasures in heaven, where moths and vermin do not destroy, and where thieves do not break in and steal. 21 For where your treasure is, there your heart will be also.
22 “The eye is the lamp of the body. If your eyes are healthy,[l] your whole body will be full of light. 23 But if your eyes are unhealthy,[m] your whole body will be full of darkness. If then the light within you is darkness, how great is that darkness!
24 “No one can serve two masters. Either you will hate the one and love the other, or you will be devoted to the one and despise the other. You cannot serve both God and money.
Do Not Worry
25 “Therefore I tell you, do not worryabout your life, what you will eat or drink; or about your body, what you will wear. Is not life more than food, and the body more than clothes?26 Look at the birds of the air; they do not sow or reap or store away in barns, and yet your heavenly Father feeds them. Are you not much more valuable than they? 27 Can any one of you by worrying add a single hour to your life[n]?
28 “And why do you worry about clothes? See how the flowers of the field grow. They do not labor or spin. 29 Yet I tell you that not even Solomon in all his splendor was dressed like one of these. 30 If that is how God clothes the grass of the field, which is here today and tomorrow is thrown into the fire, will he not much more clothe you—you of little faith? 31 So do not worry, saying, ‘What shall we eat?’ or ‘What shall we drink?’ or ‘What shall we wear?’ 32 For the pagans run after all these things, and your heavenly Father knows that you need them. 33 But seek first his kingdom and his righteousness, and all these things will be given to you as well. 34 Therefore do not worry about tomorrow, for tomorrow will worry about itself. Each day has enough trouble of its own.
7 “Do not judge, or you too will be judged. 2 For in the same way you judge others, you will be judged, and with the measure you use, it will be measured to you.
3 “Why do you look at the speck of sawdust in your brother’s eye and pay no attention to the plank in your own eye? 4 How can you say to your brother, ‘Let me take the speck out of your eye,’ when all the time there is a plank in your own eye?5 You hypocrite, first take the plank out of your own eye, and then you will see clearly to remove the speck from your brother’s eye.
6 “Do not give dogs what is sacred; do not throw your pearls to pigs. If you do, they may trample them under their feet, and turn and tear you to pieces.
Ask, Seek, Knock
7 “Ask and it will be given to you;seek and you will find; knock and the door will be opened to you.8 For everyone who asks receives; the one who seeks finds; and to the one who knocks, the door will be opened.
9 “Which of you, if your son asks for bread, will give him a stone? 10 Or if he asks for a fish, will give him a snake? 11 If you, then, though you are evil, know how to give good gifts to your children, how much more will your Father in heaven give good gifts to those who ask him!12 So in everything, do to others what you would have them do to you, for this sums up the Law and the Prophets.
The Narrow and Wide Gates
13 “Enter through the narrow gate.For wide is the gate and broad is the road that leads to destruction, and many enter through it. 14 But small is the gate and narrow the road that leads to life, and only a few find it.
True and False Prophets
15 “Watch out for false prophets.They come to you in sheep’s clothing, but inwardly they are ferocious wolves. 16 By their fruit you will recognize them. Do people pick grapes from thornbushes, or figs from thistles? 17 Likewise, every good tree bears good fruit, but a bad tree bears bad fruit. 18 A good tree cannot bear bad fruit, and a bad tree cannot bear good fruit.19 Every tree that does not bear good fruit is cut down and thrown into the fire. 20 Thus, by their fruit you will recognize them.
True and False Disciples
21 “Not everyone who says to me, ‘Lord, Lord,’ will enter the kingdom of heaven, but only the one who does the will of my Father who is in heaven. 22 Many will say to me on that day, ‘Lord, Lord, did we not prophesy in your name and in your name drive out demons and in your name perform many miracles?’23 Then I will tell them plainly, ‘I never knew you. Away from me, you evildoers!’
The Wise and Foolish Builders
24 “Therefore everyone who hears these words of mine and puts them into practice is like a wise man who built his house on the rock. 25 The rain came down, the streams rose, and the winds blew and beat against that house; yet it did not fall, because it had its foundation on the rock. 26 But everyone who hears these words of mine and does not put them into practice is like a foolish man who built his house on sand. 27 The rain came down, the streams rose, and the winds blew and beat against that house, and it fell with a great crash.”
28 When Jesus had finished saying these things, the crowds were amazed at his teaching, 29 because he taught as one who had authority, and not as their teachers of the law.
Day 20: Half way Point!
Today, reflect inwardly…
Is there anything that ‘moves you’?
It seems, maybe I’ve seen a glimpse of this in you; speaking from my heart & truth (usually when regarding you), there were moments you received me and really consumed the truth. There’s no mistaking love and I believe the same for truth, when you recognize it, it stands apart authentic & true.
Truly, What moves you?
“The acquisition of treasures by a lying tongue is a fleeting vapor, the pursuit of death.” Proverbs 21:6, NASB
What is your life’s message?
If you could share from a platform that could reach all of humanity; what message is the essence of your life that you would be compelled to share?
“If you can’t feed a hundred people, then feed just one”
– Mother Teresa
Today, vision cast! Dream up some big dreams, get wild and lavish!
“‘For I know the plans that I have for you,’ declares the Lord, ‘plans for welfare and not for calamity to give you a future and a hope.’” Jeremiah 29:11, NASB
Today, bring back the bright eyed wonder of a boy… Really look at creation, in all it’s ways intricate and vast. Just take it all in, appreciate the beauty and story behind it.
-plant kindness and gather love –
Today, face an uncomfortable situation with dignity, an impossible matter with a confident solution and where there is lack see fulfillment !
-a forest began with a single seed-
Today, drink 12 glasses of straight water.
Today, reach out and speak with a complete stranger, preferably someone over the age of 70… Maybe in the grocery story, the gas station, even if just for a few minutes, nothing too deep even, and be sure to smile at them.
– it might be the only gift of love they’ve received today
Today, begin everything with thanks & end all things with a thank you. Little things as someone holding the elevator to something more involved, have thanks throughout the day.
Today, simplify your environment … Is there a junk closet, a secrete drawer, etc. today’s the day to clean up & organize the darkened chaos into a functional space; light, easy and orderly.
Today, reflect back on any past relations (work, personal, romantic, etc) and assess how those ended. What was your part in that? However you chose, write a letter, go face to face, for one or many, make an effort to kindly apologize and edify the situation, a peaceful closure.
Day 30: Your in the home stretch!
Today, rest completely! Your mind, body, emotions, spirit. With peace in your attitude and disposition, be still and soak!
Today, create something new! Take the freedom and build up a new enterprise within yourself & life! Richly invest and keep moving forward-
Today, only eat mostly vegg&fruit, eat little meat and drink 10 glasses of water.
Today, take time away from the hustle n’ bustle, the crowds and noise and escape to isolation, in a healthy fashion. Let every choice have purpose, in this quiet time, listen. Are there answers you seem to need to know? It will be made clear, listen.
Today, go to the Hallmark Store, pick out a perfect card for a random person, maybe a grandparent… Take a few minutes and write something more than your name, maybe 12 words or maybe a novels worth, just let it be authentic .. Then mail directly.
Today, let it go! So often we can get plugged up by stress and dismay, allow yourself to let it go, maybe something that just came up or a long time concern, either way seek out the posture of your heart, find the truth and release what’s weighing on you.
Today, write out the full spectrum of your thoughts on faith, hope & love. faith the biblical definition is a confident trust or belief in God that is often based on recognizing God’s nature and His fidelity to His promises. hope is “an anchor of the soul, both sure and steadfast,” because it is rooted in the completed work of Jesus Christ who paid for all of our sins on the Cross. The Bible describes true love as being self-sacrificial rather than self-seeking. It seeks what is best for others rather than self and is based on God, who is love. True love is appropriately defined.
Today, sing out loud 🙂
In your car, the shower, the workshop, just sing out loud a real good feel good song!
Today, self reflect…. What is there in your life that you just can not do on your own? Limited resources, limited strength, etc.? Yet, you are certain it is for you… What’s your plan to surmount and accomplish in victoriously?
Today, listen to the song, Open Me by Shawn McDonald
Today, lay down all the old ways you would identify yourself, be free and cloth yourself with the value of power, love, sound mind, self control. Let that be the anthem of your day!
By the end of today, you will have accomplished something you’ve never done before, how empowering! I hope this has been a worth while transforming journey, these past 40 days/nights.